Anonymous asked: I'm a 16 year old girl, and I'm gay. The only person who knows is a teacher at my school. He's gay, and I finally worked up the courage to come out to him. I know this sounds pathetic but... how do I tell my friends? Or my parents? I feel like they would completely hate me after this. I'm so scared. I'm sorry to bother you, I know this is stupid but... I desperately need advice. Thank you.

I’m terrible at giving advice. I’m a bit headstrong and once I put my mind to something, I literally just tend to jump the gun and disregard subtlety. I told my main group of friends at a dinner. One friend guessed when I didn’t want to dance with a guy at prom. Another friend pried it out of me one day after I told her that “because of reasons,” I decided to no longer see this guy I went on a date on. However, I didn’t come out to them until a month before my high school graduation. I was already 18. I went to an all-girl school though, there was no way I was going to come out during school to everyone. I’m naturally a private person anyway so it was easy to keep things to myself. People don’t really ask questions when you tend to change the subject or pretend to not have an opinion on things. I still haven’t told my parents. My sister found out in the car about a week ago when I (I kid you not) yelled out, “I’m CAPITAL G, GAY.” 

I guess the best advice would be to take it slow. I know it seems scary. Heck, I’m always scared when it comes to things like this. But, if you trust them you should tell them. Waiting for the perfect moment is always suggestible. People usually suggest to bring up LGBT subjects to get a feel of how the person will react, but no matter how long you try, you can’t calculate someone’s response. If they love you, they’ll accept you. If they don’t, it’s their loss because you’re a pretty cool person. 

I really hope this helps. As I said earlier, I suck at giving advice.